I have been reading various comments from several different Strokes, Brain Injuries and Aphasia online Support Groups and realized the commonality is Depression. A person will outwardly seem to be in a state of self-isolation, and may have unusual sleeping or eating habits. After reading journals and speaking with experts I have finally realized depression can be a result of ANGER. Most people hold their anger in, and after reading and speaking to people in depression their anger can cause the depression. Stroke survivors, Aphasiacs, Brain injury survivors live in a world of the unknown –
- fear of another stroke or TIA
- the ups and downs of rehabilitation
- coping skills
- Why me?
- Disappointment in family or friends – not understanding “you should feel better by now”, “just get over it”, “the rolling eyes when you are using your coping skill” and my all time favorite “stop babying yourself”.
How to deal with anger; Allow yourself to feel the anger and think about the best approach to deal with these people – do not get emotional – the anxiety could make you ill. Write a letter expressing your anger – but do not send it. Counseling, meditation, and medications can be helpful. If you begin to feel like hurting yourself such as falling down stairs talk to someone. These are natural feelings for people with depression/anger.
Think of these people/comments as nuisances. You had the courage and perseverance to work through your trauma. You are the hero, they are just ignorant.
This month is the Third Anniversary of my book
” Finding My Voice With Aphasia”.
I want to thank everyone for their support, encouragement, and help in writing this book, especially the wonderful staff
at the York Harbor Inn I could not have written it without them.
Aphasia can be caused by a Stroke, TIA, and Brain Injuries. According to researchers over 2 million people in the United States suffer from this disorder and over 100,000 people a day are stricken by this disorder.
Please take a moment of silence and pray for people have
Just a friendly reminder to be careful with new medications. New medications can take as long as six weeks before a reaction can occur. These reactions can be dangerous; causing fainting; severe dehydration; heart palpitations; fatigue and change in vision. If these or any other changes occur while on the new medication call your doctor or 911 to receive the appropriate care.
This winter has been hard on everyone, especially the snow and ice. We need to be careful, very careful. Some suggestions to stay save:
- Ask for help or hire someone to plow or shovel the snow – you may feel good BUT these can be dangerous resulting in a fall or a heart attack.
- Call your Town Hall for any assistance you made need – heating, electricity, a senior center to stay warm. Ask them to check your carbon monoxide system is working properly. Be careful with the first smell of gas – go to your neighbor and call 911.
- Ask your neighbor, when they go to the store, to pick up a few things you need. If you are computer friendly consider ordering on-line with delivery.
- Make sure you have all the medicines you need. If you run out – call the pharmacy and have a friend get them for you. You may be in your home for a few days . Stay busy with hobbies, cooking or anything you enjoy this will help deal with Cabin Fever and avoid depression.
- MOST IMPORTANT KEEP YOUR MEDICATION AND APHASIA CARD WITH YOU AT ALL TIMES !
Stay Safe, Keep Warm, and God Bless!
He stood 6 feet 6 inches tall but was a gentle man. He came from Ireland in the 1940’s yet he fought for the United States during the war. He married and had ten children. He worked hard, ten to fourteen hours a day to feed his family and to put his children through school and college. Yet, he never complained “No one would listen anyway” he would say. “You do what you have to do and that’s all you can do” was his favorite expression. He was married over sixty years to a woman with a heart of gold and the strength to bring up their ten children together. Through the years he worked long hours and he and his wife watched his children grow and marry. Their home was filled with happiness and love. Suddenly it all came to a stop – the gentle giant had a massive stroke on his left side. Therapy was extensive and gave him hope. When another stroke survivor called him, his response was ‘welcome to the club girl and don’t let it get you down just work hard and never give up.’ As the years passed he became weaker. We lost the gentle, hard working father and friend this week after a nine-year struggle with his stroke. He was 93 years old and fought everyday to salvage his body from his stroke.
‘ just work hard and never give up.’
This week I had the pleasure of meeting BJ Williams at the Brain Injury Association of Massachusetts. While preparing for my radio program in November I came across an article written by this organization – it was absolutely fascinating. At times I thought I was reading an article on stroke survivors and people with aphasia. The commonalities we share are amazing. Especially the number of survivors with aphasia. I was interviewed concerning my stroke, recovery and aphasia, where I explained my aphasia coping skill. Mr. Williams is preparing a documentary for March – Brain Injury month. Your prayers and support for those who are recovering from a stroke, aphasia or brain injuries are needed. Just think “But for the grace of God it could happen to you”
That is the topic on ” Sharing Experiences – Knowledge is Power” on Toginet Thursday @ 11am.
Thank you to my listeners.
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