I have been reading various comments from several different Strokes, Brain Injuries and Aphasia online Support Groups and realized the commonality is Depression. A person will outwardly seem to be in a state of self-isolation, and may have unusual sleeping or eating habits. After reading journals and speaking with experts I have finally realized depression can be a result of ANGER. Most people hold their anger in, and after reading and speaking to people in depression their anger can cause the depression. Stroke survivors, Aphasiacs, Brain injury survivors live in a world of the unknown –
- fear of another stroke or TIA
- the ups and downs of rehabilitation
- coping skills
- Why me?
- Disappointment in family or friends – not understanding “you should feel better by now”, “just get over it”, “the rolling eyes when you are using your coping skill” and my all time favorite “stop babying yourself”.
How to deal with anger; Allow yourself to feel the anger and think about the best approach to deal with these people – do not get emotional – the anxiety could make you ill. Write a letter expressing your anger – but do not send it. Counseling, meditation, and medications can be helpful. If you begin to feel like hurting yourself such as falling down stairs talk to someone. These are natural feelings for people with depression/anger.
Think of these people/comments as nuisances. You had the courage and perseverance to work through your trauma. You are the hero, they are just ignorant.